Therapy for Avoidant Attachment in Fort Worth & Across Texas
Learn to feel safe being seen and staying present.
Therapy for avoidant attachment in Fort Worth and across all of Texas. Walk and talk therapy available in Fort Worth and online therapy available in Texas.
It feels like people always want more from you.
Whether it is your partner, your friends, or your kids you feel overwhelmed by their need to be close to you.
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Just when things become real in a relationship you begin to pull away.
Or maybe you are a mom who feels like there is no escape from your children’s constant needs.
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Time alone is where you can reset and hear yourself think.
When people constantly want time and attention from you it makes you pull away further.
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You fear if you say yes to someone they will never stop wanting more from you.
Or maybe worse that if you say no and have limits that you will be rejected.
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Your partner is constantly criticizing and asking you for more that you don’t have to give.
Your responses and emotions make sense. It is okay to be yourself here.
What is Attachment Therapy?
Attachment therapy focuses on exploring how you experience connection with others and the root of where those patterns were formed. Together, we will explore:
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We will unpack what is happening for you in your current relationships and how those connections are impacting you.
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We will explore your earliest relationships with caregivers and what connection and emotions looked like growing up.
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Do you tend to avoid emotions in yourself and others? We will bring curiosity and compassion to your experience with emotions to help you understand yourself better.
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As we work together to explore what secure attachment could look like for you we will identify what you value and desire in relationships.
This helps you build a foundation to know what you want and need in connection and the tools to voice those needs as well.
What is Avoidant Attachment?
Avoidant attachment means that you tend to feel more comfortable keeping others at a distance. These are some common feelings experienced by those with an avoidant attachment style:
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Maybe your partner or child is crying and you find yourself shutting down.
Or someone wants to spend more time with you and you find yourself feeling pressure and dread.
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You are never fully authentic and vulnerable, so if a relationship needs to end you find it fairly easy to leave.
You hide and keep a lot to yourself, so others tend to not know what you are feeling or thinking.
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Will you ever be good enough for them? The constant asking and looking for reassurance from you is exhausting. You find yourself wanting to shut them out.
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A partner or friend asks how you are doing and you shut down or say “fine” because knowing what you are feeling and saying it out loud does not feel possible to do with someone else.
What if they see the real you and reject you?
How Attachment Therapy Helps
Attachment therapy will help you explore your avoidant attachment style and understand how it impacts you and your relationships. Together, we will help you grow toward secure attachment by focusing on:
What comes up for you in our therapeutic relationship.
Learn to feel more safe slowing down and paying attention to your feelings.
Overtime as you feel more safe sharing with me you will feel more comfortable sharing your true feelings and experience with others.
Heal the root of what created a fear of others getting close to you and your emotions.
My Approach to Avoidant Attachment
We go at your pace and follow your lead.
All you have felt is pressure to open up and share. In our time together you have the freedom to go at the pace you need. It is important that you feel agency to choose what and how you share your experience with me. We will just take it one session at a time and bring kindness and curiosity to your experience of feeling overwhelmed sharing with someone.
Identify what you need and learn to share it.
It is important to recognize your needs and values in relationships. By focusing inward on your experience and desires instead of feeling pressure by expectations, you will feel more grounded sharing those needs in relationships. This helps you create a secure attachment with yourself where you are consistently showing up for yourself in an intentional way.
Understand and heal how you got here.
Many people with avoidant attachment think their childhood was “fine”. Basic needs were met, you had what you needed. The part missing was a caregiver who could help you know and understand your emotions and inner world. You were often left alone or sent away to deal with things by yourself. Healthy conflict and expressing feelings did not happen.
Therapy for Avoidant Attachment: How it Works
Book a Free Consultation
This consultation is where I can hear more about the support you need from therapy and we can determine if we are a good fit to work together.
Go At Your Pace
In our first session, I'll ask about your history and what you want to focus on in our work. From here, we will explore whatever you want to in session. For avoidant attachment healing so much of the work is simply showing up consistently and building safety for you to eventually feel safe being vulnerable and sharing more.
Curiosity and Consistency
From there, a core part of our work is you being able to share and pull away and know that I will still be here for you. You have a space where you can risk opening up and also have sessions where you do not share as much and that is all okay and welcome here. Feeling safe and trusting of someone is something that is earned over time.
Feel More Confident Connecting
As you begin to experience a place where it is safe to share your emotions, learn your needs, and communicate them you will notice that you feel more confident and connected to yourself. Slowly, you will feel more confident that you can open up and still feel independent and able to say “no” when you need to. As you grow a stronger relationship to your own emotions you will feel more able to share yourself with others as well.
FAQs
Do you have questions about therapy for avoidant attachment? Check out these frequently asked questions. If you don’t see your question here, click here to get in touch.
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Yes, I provide online attachment therapy for anyone located in Texas.
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Yes, I provide walk and talk therapy in Fort Worth, Texas.
We will meet online first to get to know one another and ensure walk and talk therapy is a good fit for you, then we can move to outside sessions.
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I go into more detail on each attachment style on these pages listed below. Sometimes a person has the same attachment style across all relationships. Other times you might be anxious with friends, but avoidant in romantic relationships.
For avoidant attachment notice if you resonate with the following experiences:
You feel more at ease by yourself than when you are with others.
You enjoy the beginning part of relationships, but when commitment increases you want to pull away.
You prefer space and time apart and fear that you will lose your independence in a relationship.
Your caregiver was emotionally distant growing up. You were left to manage your feelings and experience by yourself.
Therapy for Anxious Attachment