Attachment Therapy in Fort Worth & Across Texas
Learn to feel confident and connected in relationships.
Attachment therapy in Fort Worth and across all of Texas. Walk and talk therapy available in Fort Worth and online attachment therapy available in Texas.
Relationships feel stressful for you. Maybe you get overwhelmed or shut down or a combination of the two.
When you get close to others it can bring up a lot internally. Attachment therapy seeks to understand where those responses to connection come from for you and desire to help you develop relationships that bring enjoyment and authentic connection instead of stress and frustration. Attachment patterns can show up as:
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You aren’t trying to be hurtful, but when a friend or partner attempts to get closer to you your body and mind quickly back away.
This could look like delaying responding to messages, avoiding spending time together, or coming up with reasons you’re not available to talk or hang out.
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What are they thinking about me? Do they still like me?
This can show up as constantly questioning yourself or worrying that the other person is going to leave you.
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This could look like desiring to spend time with someone and worrying if they like you, then the moment you interpret something as rejection (like they didn’t reply quick enough to a text) you shut down and cut them off.
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Instead of friendships and a romantic partner or family being a source of comfort, rest, and safety you find yourself feeling stress when you think about relationships.
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Being a parent reveals so much about how you experienced connection as a child yourself.
Kids need a lot from you and motherhood will definitely bring up patterns you maybe didn’t even know you had.
How you experience connection can heal and grow through attachment therapy. You are not stuck.
What is Attachment Therapy?
While many approaches to therapy fix on changing your thoughts or behavior, attachment therapy is different. Attachment therapy believes that relationship both shapes you and can be what heals you. So our work uses the therapeutic relationship as part of how you grow and change. In our work together we will explore:
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Exploring what feelings come up for you in your current relationships gives us helpful information to understand how you experience connection.
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Identifying what is missing from connection you currently have is also helpful information for us to understand.
Attachment theory centers on consistency and availability. Do your current relationships have those attributes?
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While you share current relationship struggles we will also be curious about the first relationships that shaped you.
The ways you experience connection now is directly impacted by your early connection with caregivers or parents.
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Learning more about yourself and how you experience relationships is vital to understand what is and is not working for you.
Learning whether you tend to pull away, become anxious and seek reassurance, or do a combination of both can help you better understand how you experience connection and how it affects your relationships with yourself and others.
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Along with exploring your experience in personal relationships we will also explore feelings that come up for you between you and me.
We can use our therapy time to work through feelings of fear, anger, shut down, withdrawal, and reassurance seeking to better understand you.
As you experience therapy as a safe enough place to feel all of your emotions and still stay in connection with someone consistent and available that will begin to heal prior attachment wounds.
What is Attachment Theory?
Attachment theory is the study of how our early experiences with caregivers shape the way we connect, trust, communicate, and navigate relationships throughout life. There are typically four attachment types described:
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People with a secure attachment style generally feel comfortable with both closeness and independence. They can express needs, trust others, and navigate conflict without becoming overwhelmed or shutting down.
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People with an anxious attachment style often worry about rejection or abandonment. They may seek reassurance, become highly attuned to changes in a relationship, and feel distressed when connection feels uncertain.
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People with an avoidant attachment style often value independence and self-reliance. When relationships become emotionally intense, they may pull away, minimize their needs, or struggle to depend on others.
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People with a disorganized attachment style (sometimes called fearful avoidant attachment) often experience a push-pull dynamic in relationships. They may deeply desire connection while also feeling fearful, overwhelmed, or uncertain about trusting others.
Read More About Disorganized Attachment Here
How Attachment Therapy Helps
Attachment therapy will help you identify the particular way you experience and show up in relationships. As you identify that you and I can work toward helping you build a secure attachment to both yourself and others.
Gain clarity on your relationship patterns and why you feel stuck.
Identify your personal needs in relationships and feel confident communicating them.
Learn to recognize when you’re falling back into old patterns.
Experience secure attachment in our therapeutic relationship, so you can grow that with yourself and bring that into your other relationships as well.
My Approach to Attachment Therapy
Identify what is keeping you stuck in the same cycles.
Having a safe space to share your feelings and experience openly will allow us to identify where you feel stuck. As we recognize the cycles you are in that will help us learn what attachment style you resonate most with. Knowing that information will help you identify the root of why you respond the way you do in relationship. This builds a relationship with yourself that is honest and clear, so you can show up more authentically for yourself and in connection with others.
Clarify what matters to you in relationship.
There is no one size fits all for relational needs. Learning your attachment style is helpful and understanding the concept of secure and consistent connection is valuable, but what do you personally want in relationship? Not what you have been told to want and not in comparison to others. This invites a deeper layer of knowing yourself, your needs, and your desires. You get to clarify the relationship you want with yourself and the type of connection you desire with others.
Learn where your patterns come from.
Your earliest relationships shaped you. Your first experience of communication, body language, and how someone handles you being upset all occurred with your earliest caregivers. Your brain and body were impacted by that and exploring those experiences will help you feel more free and clear to shift those patterns. Identifying the root of how you experience relationship is not about blame. It is about honesty. Honestly will allow you to make changes that matter.
Attachment Therapy: How it Works
Book a Free Consultation
This consultation is where I can hear more about the support you need from therapy and we can determine if we are a good fit to work together.
Build Trust + Identify Patterns
In our first session, I'll ask about your history and what you want to focus on in our work. From here, we will build a foundation of trust so you feel comfortable being honest and exploring your story. As we listen to your experience we will be able to identify relationship patterns in your present life and what they might be connected to from your past.
Grow Compassion Toward Yourself
A vital part of your therapy experience is receiving compassion and curiosity from me as a therapist. Taking in that kind of presence will give you greater capacity to offer that curiosity and compassion to yourself. Instead of judgement and criticism you’ll be able to pause and slow down to listen to yourself.
Cultivate Fulfilling Relationships
As you shift how you relate to yourself you will notice a greater ability to offer that same compassion and curiosity to others. You’ll also be more in touch with your needs and desires along with a deeper confidence to share those things with people in your life. All of those pieces will bring more authenticity to your relationship to both yourself and others.
FAQs
Do you have questions about attachment therapy? Check out these frequently asked questions. If you don’t see your question here, click here to get in touch.
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Yes, I provide online attachment therapy for anyone located in Texas.
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Yes, I provide walk and talk therapy in Fort Worth, Texas.
We will meet online first to get to know one another and ensure walk and talk therapy is a good fit for you, then we can move to outside sessions.
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I go into more detail on each attachment style on these pages listed below. Sometimes a person has the same attachment style across all relationships. Other times you might be anxious with friends, but avoidant in romantic relationships.
You are welcome to read through the styles on the pages below and see what resonates. Therapy is also a helpful place to learn more about your attachment style and how that impacts your life.
Therapy for Anxious Attachment